My business coach asked this question Monday and it stopped me in my tracks.
“What are the top three emotions fueling your actions today?’
I got out my notebook and went to work.
As soon as she asked that question, I knew I had work to do. I have been operating from a space of worry, overwhelm, anxiety, frustration and impatience. That’s never going to be the best fuel choice for the actions required to generate the result that I want to create.
Just like a snicker bar is a horrible choice to fuel your body for a marathon, fear based emotions are not the best choice for fueling your actions when you are trying to accomplish a goal.
Regardless of the goal, regardless of the circumstance, there are better options.
Think about the result that you want to create and think about what you believe you would need to do, think about the actions that you would need to take in order to create that result.
Now ask yourself if the way you are feeling right now is going to inspire the action that needs to be taken. For me the answer was no way.
I have been thinking thoughts like “this is hard, there is not enough time, this is taking longer that I want, this is exhausting, this is expensive, this is annoying, contractors are annoying”….guess how I show up?
Impatient, snarky, snotty, grouchy, frantic, frustrated, annoyed!!!
None of my actions taken from that place would be inspired or massive.
The action would most likely be frantic or maybe even not action. Not a good recipe for the result that I want to create.
Here is the thing that I want you to take away. You are human, you have a brain, it thinks 65,000 thoughts a day. Some of those thoughts are going to dominate and surface and create negative, fear based emotions. That doesn’t mean that you have to abdicate your human experience to them.
You get to decide.
You get to decide the human experience that you want to have.
I was texting my thought model to my husband yesterday and interestingly, he was going through a similar sequence of thoughts and emotions. So layer on two people feeding off of each other and this remodel was for sure on track to being a horrible experience.
We know it’s going to get done whether we enjoy the process or not. We can stop and pivot and choose our thoughts more wisely and choose thoughts that energize us or we can be miserable for the next 60 days. The decision is ours.
Here is why it’s so important to manage the thoughts on the journey. It’s not going to feel like a positive outcome if the experience was negative. The experience during the process of creating any result is where the lessons are, where the growth is, regardless of the outcome you are trying to create.
This applies to everything.
Sometime when I ask people what they are thinking, they don’t know. We can get so busy that we find ourselves living at the effect of what is happening to us and what I want to show you is that nothing is just happening to you, it’s also happening through you. Through your thoughts, feelings and actions.
The best way to know what you’re thinking is to look at the results in your life.
Your results reveal your most significant thoughts.
This applies to all of the great things that you are creating and all of the not so great things that you are creating.
What you weigh, how much money you have in your bank account, where you live, who you’re married to, how many friends you have, your possessions, where you work, the car you drive, the clothes you wear, the state that the house is in, what your pantry looks like, what your day looks like, what your calendar looks like.
All of it, those are all results. Your accomplishments, your achievements your acquisitions, what you have created, invited and attracted.
I really want you to notice all of the amazing results you have created, but I also want you to look at it as if it’s just math.
These are the positive results that I’ve created because I’ve thought positive thoughts, and these are also the results I’ve created because I’ve let negative thoughts take root in my day, week, month, year and I have let negative thought dominate and fuel my actions.
And here’s a cool trick for you to look at when you’re looking at your thought models. If the feeling driving your actions is a positive emotions, you will most likely see the result as positive.
So if you have positive thoughts like, I love my job and you feel excited and motivated and you go to work and produce enough value to get let’s just say $100,000, my guess is from that model, you’ll be super happy with that thought model.
It doesn’t mean you don’t want to make more than $100,000, but you’re super happy.
What I want you to see is that you are happy because you’re fueling that result from positive emotion.
Now, someone else could have the exact same result of making $100,000 and if what is fueling their result is negative emotion, their outcome is not going to feel positive at all. They could be fueled by greed, revenge, desperation, anger, resentment, any or all of it. They are going to think about that $100,000 result totally differently being fueled from negative emotions.
What I am sharing with you is the difference between a mindset of abundance and a mindset of scarcity. It sounds like it’s a lesson on positive and negative…it’s not.
When we are experiencing negative emotions, we are coming from a place of fear which drives scarcity and lack. Lack of time, lack of money, lack of resources, lack of energy, lack of patience, lack of creative ideas…all kinds of lack.
When we are experiencing positive emotions, we are coming from a place of love which drives abundance. Plenty of time, money, energy, favor, patience, ideas…all kinds of abundance.
When we try to reach our goal though grit, desperation, deprivation, frustration etc…we might still create the result but it won’t feel like a positive result because of the fuel…the emotions.
So think about a result that you want to create and think about the emotion that you want to be driving that result.
Now, this doesn’t ,mean that worry and doubt won’t come up, they will. But when you are fueled by a deeper emotion, the ones that you choose, you will be able to cause the effect in your life.
Brooke Castillo~ “I just got asked this on a podcast, what is the most important indicator of long-term success, and I said the emotion fueling the activities.”
I really wanted to share this real time experience with you so that you could see the before, during and the after effect of me going through a transformation and be encourages and inspired on your own journey to choose the emotions that are going to serve you, on purpose
The ones that I am choosing on purpose are patience, love, gratitude, confidence, courage, maturity, responsibility and abundance…all of it!
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