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Every year I say to myself, “I am going to start playing the piano more.” Every year I don’t. I have owned that white baby grand for more than 25 years. I have played at it, but mostly I just enjoy having it and looking at it.
But still, every year I have the same thought, to play it more. In fact, the 10 minutes that I played it on New Year’s Day was more than the entire previous year.
So this year I committed to playing the piano at least 5 minutes a day. That’s my baseline minimum. Even if it’s 9:00 and time for bed and I have not done it, I could still go do 5 minutes no problem.
Before I can become a better pianist, I must commit to playing the piano. I must become someone who plays the piano. I must at least sit on the bench and work the keys for at least 5 minutes a day.
I have a piece that I want to be able to play by the end of the year. I want to be able to play it beautifully.
I am so far from that right now, that the thought of it is overwhelming and defeating.
It’s supposed to be like that. Your goal is supposed to make you grow and stretch and be a little uncomfortable at the thought of it.
If playing that piece now was doable, it’s not a goal, it’s a task or a thing to perform.
But here is the deal…when you have not been a person who sets a goal and achieves a goal, that is where you need to start.
Today, the goal was to play for 5 minutes, I played for 20. Playing beautifully was not the goal today, playing was.
If it’s your goal to run a 5K, 10K or marathon, you first must be someone who puts on running shoes. Then you must commit to the habit of running a little every day.
Thinking only about the marathon will not get you to the race.
Today, as I was doing my 5 minutes, (which turned into 20), I was playing my piece. It was bad, awful, I was clumsy. It didn’t sound good, it was hard. My brain kept saying just stop, you don’t have to do this to yourself. Just stop, it’s too hard, please just stop…no one will know.
I said to my brain…”I will know.” And that’s what we need to do with our brain in order to trump our brains motivational strategy.
Your brain wants you to seek pleasure, avoid pain and conserve energy. That strategy was great 1000 years ago.
Today, we need to seek growth, be willing to feel anything and take inspired action. I can teach you how to trump your brain’s motivational strategy and Break the Commit and Quit Cycle.
Getting good at setting and achieving goals takes practice.
We first must give ourselves the experience of setting a goal and achieving a goal.
So, in the beginning, I suggest that you set a goal that you know you will hit, like, it’s not even a possibility that you won’t hit it.
Give yourself a win. Then set a stretch goal and then a bigger stretch goal.
Become a person who sets and achieves goals and then add the stretch factor and the fail factor.
We must first put on our running shoes and become a person who runs before we can become the person who runs the marathon.
I hope this was helpful and useful for you.
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