When you think about where you are now and where you want to be, it’s easy to start to feel like your goal is out of reach.
You may even have thoughts like, “people like me don’t make that kind of money, or lose that kind of weight or get that job or have that relationship.”
You name it, we all have that “things like that don’t happen to people like me” sentence.
The larger the gap between where we are and where we want to be, the more we begin to doubt and question whether is it possible at all.
At the risk of sounding like a broken record, there are two reasons for that…
- You are human, and
- You have a brain
Yep, your brain is going to take every opportunity to try and get you to hit that easy button, go back to drinking beer, eating Cheetos and watching Entertainment Tonight. Is that even on any more?
Back to the blog…
When the journey takes longer than expected, we end up feeling disappointed, we beat ourselves up, and jump into the self-pity pool…
and that my friends is the gap trap!
How many times have you started to learn a new thing like playing an instrument, or riding a horse or how to lose weight? It didn’t happen fast enough and so you gave up.
Think about that thing…what is that thing that seems like it is meant for someone else but you really, really, really want it too?
For me, it was the thought of being a horse woman and showing horses.
I would envy the girls with horses that could carry themselves with elegance, had amazing gaits, could back up around barrels, could gracefully lope off from a walk.
I would watch other riders who seemed to know exactly what to do and when to do it. They seemed to be at one with their partner.
What I saw in them, and where I was at that time, was a huge gap.
You see, the first lesson that I took at the age of 53, I fell off of the mounting block and under the horse. Not once, not twice, but three times. God bless that horse!
I didn’t have a pedigree horses. I had a backyard pasture accident that I bought from a sale barn. Now, I couldn’t even get on a horse using a mounting block!
I had every reason to think that I was not meant to be a horse woman. I had every reason to not go back the next week. I was embarrassed, I felt humiliated and I was sore as hell!
You might be feeling like that now.
It’s OK. It does not mean anything, so don’t make it mean anything. Ok, well maybe it means that you need to practice at the mounting block a little more than you had originally planned, but that is all that it means.
What to do?
Focus on getting better every day. Better at becoming the person that loses the weight, gets the job, starts the business, launches a program, rides the horse.
Visualize you’re being that person every day and do one thing every day that gets you closer to being that person.
Don’t lose sight of the big thing, but day to day, focus on the habits you can create and the progress that you are making.
Think the thoughts that serve your goal, not your gap.
Now, go be a goal setting, goal getting, goal digger!!!