My blog from last week about curiosity and your thoughts was one of the most popular so far and I think that it offers the most opportunity to get it all wrong, so I thought it was worth a part 2.
What are some things to get curious about? How do you get curious without criticizing?
Many of us do question our behavior and it sounds like this:
“Why did you do that, you are an idiot…”
“What’s wrong with you?”
“Why can’t you just stop eating, or drinking or shopping…” insert any numbing out and buffering behavior.
That is not curiosity, that’s judgement.
Curiosity is a thirst for knowledge, a quest for information. Being curious about our thoughts is snooping into our subconscious.
I describe our subconscious as a toddler with a knife. Cute, doesn’t mean any harm, but destructive if left unattended. So get nosey, check in, and be curious.
Here are some curious thoughts to try on for size.
Thoughts and Feelings
- What am I thinking/feeling today?
- Why am I thinking/feeling this way?
- Where are these thoughts/feelings coming from?
- Is this a healthy thought/emotion that serves me?
- Is there a better thought/emotion that serves me?
- What thought will support the way that I want to feel?
- Why am I being unkind to myself?
- How can I be more kind to myself?
- What nice thing can I do for myself right now?
- I wonder why I eat past fullness in the evenings?
- Is it because I don’t eat enough during the day?
- Am I stressed or overwhelmed or eating emotionally and using food to cope?
- What would be a better way to cope?
I know, I know I know it’s hard to stop the buffering and numbing behaviors…I have a few of my own. But I also know how empowering it feels when you are able to take your power back and act at the effect of your adult brain, the prefrontal cortex. It feels amazing!!!! The more you do it, the easier it gets.
Why do we care about managing buffering or numbing out behavior? Because, they are thieves of our time, money, energy, self-worth and totally mess up our goals!
It’s hard to sit with your thoughts and emotions, and yet, that is the answer. It’s hard because it is uncomfortable and we want to be comfortable at all times.
Our ability and our willingness to be with our thoughts and emotions and be uncomfortable is how you become emotionally resilient and when you are emotionally resilient, there isn’t anything that you can’t do!
So, I offer these thoughts as a way to begin the process of being curios.
Now go be a goal getting curios goal digger!
You can click on this image to check out this amazing book by Ian Leslie. Curiosity is a habit!